2018 in Photographs
I don’t even know if the world looks at these blog posts anymore – but I know that I do. Every year I take a week to sit at my computer, go through every shoot I did in the year, think that my work is amazing, think that my work is garbage, slam my computer shut, show my husband and then start over again. I do this for myself – so that the years don’t blend together and that I can look back and remember the incredible moments I was able to witness. I’ve been collectively doing it since 2011 and it’s been the best measure of growth and change. Instead of attempting to write a sappy collection of memories, I want to write about some things that I hope the wedding industry leans more toward.
More spontaneity – less rigidity. This is hard for me to even type because I am the queen of list making, spread sheet living and schedule timeliness. It’s something I pride myself in, and I know that organization can help make a wedding day successful. However – I am so saddened by my clients who are so glued to their wedding schedule that they won’t go break away and hug their Grandma when she arrives. Or that the entire day becomes more of a photo shoot and less of a wedding. You might think at the time that it’s necessary to have hundreds of portraits – but I can promise you that you won’t know what to do with those. My goal this year is to frame the schedule of the day less around the photo ops and more about the things that will create memories. What if portrait time was actually just simply about being together. What if instead of standing in a line with your best friends in front of something pretty you popped champagne and hung out at your favorite place and ate pizza? You get it.
Less comparison. This is for me – obviously – but also for all of you. If you’re getting married you’re probably being bombarded with images of incredible decor, perfect first dances and pictures of dresses that cost $20,000. Plan your wedding the way that you want to. Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel uniquely like you – and don’t feel like the goal of your wedding should be to be featured on any sort of website.
Locations that matter. I love a sunset as much as the next person. I love flowers. I love beautiful light. But what I love even more is taking photos of people in places that mean something to them. Where was your first date? Where do you walk your dog? Where did you have your first kiss? And why do you want to spend half of your wedding day in a bus? What matters in photos are the people and making sure that you’re having fun and actually being present in your day – let’s do this in a place that years later – you will be able to explain to your kids on the importance of where you snapped these photos.
I know I sound super angry while writing this – but I’m more or less angry at myself for falling into the trap of what Instagram and social media has done to wedding photos. I spent most of the holidays looking through my families old boxes of photographs – and realized that what mattered about them is the people in them and the emotion that you can see. I didn’t need 400 golden sunset light photos. I need a couple photos that are true and honest and represent the incredible people that I come from.
I could do an entire second blog post on how thankful I am for every person in this collection of images. Everyone was so gracious, open, vulnerable and welcomed me into their story without reservation. The best thing about the end of the year is looking back and seeing how many new people I’ve welcomed into my life – and also looking forward to all new people. I am so thankful for all of you for making my life something that I truly have always wanted it to be. I love you all. Happy New Year!